I just bought a birthday present for a niece at Amazon UK. (One day late, mea culpa.)
Too many people in my Amazon address list have died in the last year or so, but for some reason I would feed a bit callous deleting them.
I wait patiently, with no urgency. I have been granted all the time there is. I do not try to make anything of what I see. I hold no expectation or assumption that I know anything at all.